So, you got a new job because you were sick and tired of your other job. The company you worked at before was crazy and you didn’t agree with their policies and you are pretty sure your old boss was having an affair with the Director of HR. You were fed up.
So, you went out and found something new. You’re ecstatic because this is going to be different. This company isn’t messed up like the last one. This job is going places and you feel so much better.
So, you are happy until you get bored. In the first year you were so busy learning the job you didn’t have time to notice all the stuff that bothered you. But, now that you have some time on your hands you start to see a few things you don’t like.
So, you continue to look for more things you don’t like and all of a sudden signs are everywhere for you to quit. The novelty has worn off. The new perfect job is no longer new or perfect. You start to get really annoyed.
So, you fight. You fight the job, because you want it to be something it isn’t. You fight your boss, you fight your co-workers, you fight the company culture, and you fight the other team in that meeting. You fight everything and everyone because you are mad that it isn’t what you thought it would be. You fight because you don’t want to accept it. You rather fight.
So, you look for a new job because anything will be better than this. You find a new job and this one is great until it isn’t. Then you get irritated and look for another job and another job and another job and on and on and on.
So, your career is over and happiness eluded you. You never did find a job that was perfect, a company that wasn’t messed up or a boss that got you. You begin to wonder where you went wrong? You realize that it was YOU all along that was making things more difficult and it was YOU who wasn’t perfect and it was YOU who could have changed.
So, now you tell everyone that will listen. “If I could do it all over again, I wouldn’t look for the perfect job or the perfect company or the perfect boss because it doesn’t exist. Instead I would accept each company for what it was and use my energy on working within that system. Not fighting against it. Not trying to make it something it wasn’t. I would figure out how I could work in it not against it. I would look at it all differently, because it wasn’t the companies or bosses that made me unhappy it was my attitude about them that made me so miserable. Take it from me, the grass isn’t greener on the other side of the fence, grass is greener where you water it. Sure, some jobs, just plain suck and you have to move on but the majority aren’t all that bad and the sooner you realize that, the happier you will be.”
Grass is greener where you water it