I believe that making good decisions is an important skill. After all life is full of decisions. Life is also full of uncertainty, which makes making decisions difficult. The key word here is making decisions. Sometimes, rather than make a decision we drag our feet. Don’t get me wrong, it is important to take your time and think things through but if you have been making decisions long enough you know that most decisions cannot be seen all the way through in your imagination, most decisions have to be made, you have to actually try them to see if they will work out. But for whatever reason, instead of just doing it or trying it out you speculate. You make a guess based on your previous experiences. You assume that what happened before will happen again but that is not making a decision it is speculation. A decision is a process of choosing whereas speculation is conjecture, it is not based in reality. How can you know for sure that you made the right decision if all you did was speculate?
The only way to know for sure is to try.
The only way to know for sure if that place has the best sushi in town is to try it for yourself. The only way to know if those shoes will give you blisters is to buy them. The only way to know if that guy really likes you is to flirt with him. But if you speculate you won’t try anything, you make a non-decision because you assume that the place will give you food poisoning, the shoes will make your feet bleed and the guy is probably married.
Speculating keeps you stuck!
Speculating seems easier because you remove your options without ever having to take a risk. You tell yourself that you are limiting uncertainty by speculating BUT the uncertainty you were trying so hard to avoid is still there in the choices that you ruled out without ever trying. The only way to know for sure is to try. If you don’t try you will never know and if you never know you will always wonder. What would be worse? Taking a chance or wondering if you missed out on the best sushi of your life with that cute guy while wearing your new shoes?
I am not saying that everything will work out perfectly if you take a chance, I am saying that at least you will know for sure.